New Year, New Thoughts?

Happy New Year to all!  By the time I post this, Christmas is a memory (hopefully a pleasant one for everyone) and all that’s left now is to pay for it all when the credit card bill comes in!  We had a lovely Christmas, with the day itself spent at my brother’s house for a multi-family lunch, and we hosted lunch at ours on Boxing Day, albeit for a smaller crowd.  It was lovely and everyone appeared to enjoy themselves with no fisticuffs or tears that I’m aware of!  Our New Year’s Eve was spent very quietly at home, watching the fireworks from our balcony.

Towards the end of our break my beautiful husband (David) and I visited my Dad, with him appearing very tired.  Dad said he’d had virtually no sleep the night before due to thoughts racing around in his head.  This struck me because I’m a lot like Dad in many ways (David points this out quite frequently!) and I had said exactly the same thing to David the day before – that I had had trouble sleeping for my mind racing.  I love Dad but he is a real stress-head, and this made me realise that he has lived his whole life this way, stressing about little things.  It doesn’t seem to have harmed him, he’s quite healthy, but that’s a far from ideal way to live each day.  I decided at that point that I don’t want to be a slave to my thoughts for the rest of my life (I can’t change what’s gone before, but I would like to change my future).

I later expressed this to David who was most supportive and offered to give advice and prodding where required.  My aim is to not ‘chase’ a thought to its perceived end all the time and thereby become a little more ‘peaceful’ internally.  For example, worrying over an upcoming event I’m not confident about, then imagining all the possible ways it might go wrong; or mentally ‘beating myself up’ for things I’ve said or done that I could have handled a lot better.

Epic fail already – within several hours of said conversation with David I’d already fallen off the wagon and was reminded of same.  It’s going to be a long hard road changing the habits – for that’s what they are, thought patterns are merely habits – of many years, but I’ll keep trying.

5 thoughts on “New Year, New Thoughts?

  1. Hello D,
    I don’t think I’ve commented since your post, AUGUST 20, 2014 Dark Chocolate (Night Out – Quartet). I do apologize for the absence, but life, and I’m afraid death, borrowed time from my already busy schedule. I’ve a new internet connection and PC, and hopefully a better experience online. I so recognize myself in your words, for I too possess (to my wife’s dismay I might add) what I’ve affectionately named “Monkey Mind.” My mind hops around at night like a monkey in a tree. I am sorry to hear of your affliction, though not as alarmed as before I read this post of yours. Tis somehow comforting and reassuring to know that someone else half-way around the world from me, understands and epically fails as regularly as do I. My best to you and your Hubby,
    D~

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    1. Hi there, welcome back! Am so glad to hear from you and to hear that all is well (sorry for your loss however). None of us is immune from loss unfortunately, but on the flip side we can choose to cherish each moment, even the crappy ones. It just takes longer to appreciate those 😉 I really like the term ‘Monkey Mind’, very apt! And yes, we are all very different and yet so similar at the same time; I haven’t met anyone who doesn’t fail on a regular basis yet, and that is not such a bad thing. Thanks again for writing and hope to hear from you again soon, D xx

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    1. Hi Michelle, thanks for your enquiry, but I’m sorry I don’t have a Facebook account (yes true!) I must be one of the last people on Earth not to have one, I realise. Sorry about that, but please keep stopping by the blog, D xx

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